Recent Reflections

'How does one become a butterfly?' she asked. 'You must want to fly so much that you are willing to give up being a caterpillar.'


Parallel Realities

Some people see auras. I distinguish energy patterns. Based on my experience with many people, I have come to understand these patterns as bodily-held belief systems. Some of them can lead to emotional problems or physical illness, or both. Instead of just claiming to perceive energy, I would like to describe the process of how I came to observe these patterns, and why I consider them to be a physical force just like the energy that powers a light bulb.

As described in my previous book, Consciousness and the Enlightened Body, around the age of eight I began to have mysterious pains in various parts of my body--mostly the heart and belly. These pains were so severe and so debilitating that I often had to stay home from school. Due to the chest pains, I was never allowed to play team sports. At age nine, one of the pains in my abdomen was so severe that the doctors removed my appendix just in case it was about to rupture. Between ages 12 and 15 I underwent extensive medical tests at a local hospital, and then at the most prestigious hospital in Warsaw, about 30 miles from my home town. The doctors ran blood tests, electrocardiograms, and even looked at my heart through a fiber-optic catheter inserted through one of my arteries. None of them found any sign of illness. I was labeled a hypochondriac and sent on my way. Like a hypochondriac, I continued to visit one doctor after another, hoping to find someone who could find out what was causing these terrible pains.

In my mid-20s I finally discovered that the pain was coming from something outside of me--that it was not my pain, but a painful reaction to something in the environment. As related in my previous book, I moved into an apartment where I discovered that sitting in a certain part of the living room would always send me into a miserable fit of sneezing and congestion, as if I was having an allergic reaction or a bad cold. If I stayed out of that part of the room, I had no symptoms. As soon as I returned to the chair in that area of the room, the sneezing and stuffiness would return. I had discovered that the symptoms were related to a specific location. Later, I learned to use simple dowsing rods made of "L" shaped wires--the sort that some people use to locate underground water. From this I deduced that it was likely a flow of underground water below that specific part of the apartment that my body was responding to with cold or allergy-like symptoms.

Once I learned to consciously notice and avoid areas that induced these symptoms, the sensitivity to them disappeared. This is an important principle in my healing method, for it is by bringing discordances to consciousness and staying present with them in a compassionate way that they are healed. But this insight would come much later. Meanwhile, the pains in my body had not disappeared. However, I now realized that they might be my body's response to something outside of myself. One day, now in my early 40s, I sat down next to someone whose knee was itching, and I suddenly experienced an overpowering itch on exactly the same part of the same knee on my body. In a flash, I realized that I was experiencing the itching in his knee as an itch in my body. I had never heard of such a thing, and if you had asked me I would have said that to feel someone else's sensation was impossible. I was a rational person, an engineer. But here was a clear experience that gave me some possible insight into the source of my body pains.

From this, I began to pay attention to my sensations when I was around other people. If I entered a room and felt a pain, I would look around and ask myself, Who is hurting? What I noticed was that when I turned my attention to the person with the pain, I would begin to hear a sound in my ears like the scratchy noise from a radio that is not properly tuned to a station. It sounded as if something within that person was out of tune. At the same time, the pain in my body would ease a little.

It is hard to put into words how thrilling and relieving this discovery was. I had suffered with severe unexplained pains in my body for some 35 years, had been labeled as a hypochondriac, and now I had not just an explanation for those pains, but also a solution. Even though this experience made no sense to my scientifically-trained rational mind, it happened so consistently that I began to trust it as something real. I wanted to learn more. I went to all kinds of seminars and workshops about energy healing, and went for private sessions with many different healers and teachers. None of them were able to help me until I discovered the healing processes that I share in this book.

The next step forward came when I found myself gazing at a picture of the Shroud of Turin in the home of a friend. A feeling of all-encompassing love came over my body, as if it were in every cell, every atom, of my being. The pains that I experienced were always at some particular physical location, but this love felt as if it filled me up so completely that there was not a single empty space left anywhere. There is ongoing historical debate about whether the Shroud of Turin is authentically from Jesus, or whether it was somehow created in the Middle Ages. I have no opinion on its historical origin. However, I do know that it was through this image that I gained my first experience of what love actually is. This quality, this vibration, is what I have been able to use from that time forward to stop all of the pains in my body. Of course, it took some time to learn the specific skills. However, I found that when a pain would begin somewhere in me I could simply meet it with the presence of this quality of love, If I felt comfortable enough with the person experiencing pain, I might ask if I could do a little massage on their body in the same spot where I felt the pain in my own body, at the same time focusing on balance within my body. As I did so, she or he would usually begin to tell me a story about some aspect of life that held conflict or trauma. Then the person's physical pain and emotional issue would begin to resolve together. As they did, the pain in my body would go away. This process became the basis for the work of energy healing that I practice and teach.

The term "energy healing" carries both the richness of traditional stories about saints and wonder-workers who had the gift of healing others, and the baggage of charlatans who have claimed to heal others in order to draw followers and make money. My scientist self was trained to believe only in the sort of medicine practiced by physicians, and to hold stories of people who could heal others as nothing more than folk tales. I came to this form of energy healing because it was the only way I was able to heal myself from symptoms that were crippling my life.

I call these phenomena energies because, as an electrical engineer, this term is fitting. Known energies have frequency and amplitude, and can be affected through resonance. The bodily processes that I experience in doing this work have just these properties. As a scientist, I do not believe that these energies of illness and of healing are mysterious forces from outside of the physical universe. Even though science has not yet learned how to measure them, I believe that the day will come when these energies become just as measurable, just as "real" in a scientific sense, as the electricity that makes your appliances run. The visions of one era often become the technologies of the next. In the 1940s, the two-way wrist radio of comic strip character Dick Tracy was science fiction. Today, many cell phones are small enough to fit on a wristband. The fact that a cell phone signal knows where you are, and can find you to connect a call, is neither magic nor supernatural, but a carefully constructed system incorporating many discoveries made during the intervening years.

Within a few months of my experience with the image from the Shroud of Turin, I began to experiment helping others using the techniques that had brought about my own recovery. This gave me the opportunity to observe these belief systems in many more individuals, and to begin to notice patterns. As I listened to the stories that clients came with, I realized that each story had a specific underlying vibration. These frequencies were not random, but correlated with the client's beliefs, the type of energy patterns in his or her body, and the type of illness suffered.

The Six Worlds of Imbalance

After some years of observation, as I gradually became a full time therapist, I began to understand the specific ways that beliefs correlated with patterns of vibrations, and then were manifested in the body as pain or contraction. It was as if each person who came to me lived within their own world, their own personal reality-bubble, built around a series of assumptions that were carried in the tissues of their body as a sort of somatic philosophy. Even though each person's story was unique, the vibrational qualities associated with these stories allowed me to begin sorting them into different buckets--different types of stories.

I came to notice distinctly different stories because for few days all of my clients would be from the same reality, so I had an opportunity to observe the qualities of that story in some detail. Then for the next few days, everyone would be from a different reality. It was as if life had decided to train me on one reality after another. With time, I came to see that there were six distinct energy patterns--six different sorts of story-worlds, each with a unique vibrational signature and personality. Each world had its own guiding principles, motivations and beliefs, type of thinking, characteristic problems, and typical illnesses. In some sense, it was as if each world followed a different "god."

A person who lives inside one of these realities cannot see anything outside of his or her own bubble. Ideas based in a different reality are either re-interpreted to fit their own assumptions, or else simply dismissed as not real. For this reason, people from different realities have great difficulty communicating with each other. The guiding beliefs of one reality are simply incomprehensible within another reality. Those living within a different story appear to be deluded, possibly even dangerous. On the other hand, a person will be attracted to someone who lives in the same reality system as they do--even though this alliance makes it harder to confront their own limited beliefs.

The first three realities to emerge came to my notice because of the extraordinary power that they hold in those who are under their sway. These story-worlds are dynamic, malicious, and malignant - much more active than reactive. I call them the Reality of Power, the Reality of Boundaries, and the Reality of Sweet and Shiny. I will call them the Worlds of Commission. Then three other realities immerged; Materialist, Spiritualist and Logician. Those were more passive, reacting to the problems of the outside world by some sort of withdrawal. I will call them the Worlds of Omission. As you read about these realities, keep in mind that the purpose of discovering them is to open the door to escape from the ways that each one limits life. By consciously changing one's beliefs, not only mentally but throughout the whole person, it is possible to free oneself from the dynamics of each and every story.

Worlds of Commission

The Reality of Power

"War doesn't determine who is right, only who is left." Bernard Russell

To the person living in the Reality of Power, everything is about power: getting it, using it, losing it, or being a victim of it. Power is what defines reality; it is the axis on which the world turns--so your power status is the most real thing about you. The power-driven person is either safely in power or a victim of someone else's power. Everyone else is either with him or against him. There is no middle ground, no faith in life, no tolerance of ambiguity about power dynamics--if he does not clearly have power over others, this alone makes him a victim. Yet even as victim this person worships power, giving over control in a way that makes room for a dictator to emerge: oppressor and oppressed dance in complementary partnership. Conflict and violence characterize this reality, and can manifest as war between nations, classes, companies or individuals.

Army Boot Camp is a good model of a power-driven world, where young recruits must be broken in order to be governed. Discipline and force at every level is what keeps the world safe and well-ordered. Status within the power structure is clearly visible in each soldier's dress and insignia. The direct order of a superior officer must always be obeyed without hesitation or question, and insubordination is harshly punished. The abuse received from one's superiors is handed down to those of lower rank, and grunt soldiers at the bottom have only women or combat enemies on whom to take out their frustrations.

As in all of the realities, the basic assumptions and beliefs belonging to the Reality of Power reinforce each other. These include:

  • I want govern and I can justify any action to sustain my influence
  • The end justifies the means
  • I am going to do what I damn well please because I can
  • It's my way or the highway
  • Everyone is taking advantage of me
  • Things like this only happen to me
  • It's all a government plot
  • Some days, you're the fly and some days you're the windshield

The Reality of Fear

"The optimist proclaims that we live in the best of all possible worlds; and the pessimist fears this is true."  James Branch Cabell (1879 - 1958),The Silver Stallion, 1926

One who lives in the Reality of Fear is always concerned about what might go wrong, and what we will be lacking. Central to this story is the fact that the world is a dangerous and unpredictable place, and that one's security is always teetering precariously. The fear-driven person regularly imagines the worst possible scenario and is obsessed with preparing and planning in order to meet any number of unforeseen circumstances. She is motivated by the need for security and the fear of not having enough, and is always rehearsing and gathering resources. She is able to react creatively to dangerous situations because she practices it constantly. She fears new situations or unexpected turns of events because she doesn't yet have a plan (or several plans) to deal with them.

An example of this is the woman who constantly overprotects her friends and family. She worries about what might happen to them, but almost seems relieved when problems come along for her to fix--this makes her feel useful, and proves that she was right to worry in the first place. She works to make herself indispensable to everyone for fear that if they did not need her, she might lose their love and attention. Her children complain that she is invasive and that she tries to protect them from their own lives, but she is sure they would fall apart without her. She fills her plate so full with imagined responsibilities that she feels overwhelmed and worries, she will fall short on the impossible task she has set for herself. This awakens her fear of loss, and in the back of her mind she is incessantly making up plans to cover any eventuality of losing. Her house is cluttered because she never throws anything out--she might need it one day.

Beliefs from the Reality of Fear:

  • Better safe than sorry
  • If something can go wrong, it will
  • You have to be prepared because you never know what will happen next
  • I can rely only on myself
  • Always wear clean underwear in case you are in an accident
  • I can't do it all--but I have to
  • I've got too many balls in the air
  • It's all on my shoulders

The Reality of Sweet and Shiny

"Sometimes people carry to such perfection the mask they have assumed that in due course they actually become the person they seem." W. Somerset Maugham (1874 - 1965), The Moon and Sixpence

The Reality of Sweet and Shiny is the reality of perfection, comparison and conditional love. In this space, the natural yearning for love is confronted by the idea that only perfection receives love. It is the world of enticing illusion, the seduction of instant gratification. Life is about finding a way to live at the peak, to find that buzz of excitement and keep it going. It is luscious young bodies dancing in effervescent moonlight, eternally attractive and happy. Yet it is also orthodox religions, with their versions of the perfect life. The person driven by Sweet and Shiny strives not only to be perfect in everything, but also unique, original, unlike anyone else. He will try to learn from everywhere in order to make it, follow every new idea in his quest to be perfect. There is no room for mistakes, no time for plans to mature slowly, no tolerance for life to have a texture of ups and downs. Life must be an unbroken procession of wondrous moments and triumphs, each better than the one before.

Behind the dazzling Hollywood set is the gnawing, inescapable knowledge that he is not good enough, that he never will be good enough. Yet he must conceal this fact, or others would know that he does not deserve to be loved. He has to put on the mask, the appearance of perfection. His clothes, his mannerisms, his environment and those around him are an extension of his own facade. Yet this mask makes it difficult for him to perceive the masks of others, so he lives in a world where illusions predominate. All of his vitality goes into preserving the appearances, so he ends up an empty suit, a hollow shell around dark nothingness.

Addictions such as alcohol, drugs, coffee, sugar or sex are a strong temptation, for they infuse the emptiness with a feeling of aliveness. The illusion of alcohol is thinking that you are getting better and the problem is disappearing. The cup of coffee "makes" you feel more alert and smart. The illusion of romance is that relationships will provide all the sweetness you need in life. The sweet and shiny perfectionist will look for at a relationship as an instant connection, instant gratification that leads to lasting bliss. But the first moment the relationship isn't perfect the conclusion is, This is not The One. Now it is time to find someone new.

An example is the woman who sacrifices herself to have a perfect home and perfect children. She starves herself because even an ounce of extra fat is unacceptable, and she works out vigorously because she is nothing if she cannot be beautiful. She is devoted to her spiritual practice of meditation. When she is diagnosed with breast cancer, nobody else in the family wants to participate in chores, because she was doing everything. They just complain because she is not there to do things. She feels devastated because she did everything right, and in the end even God abandoned her.

Beliefs from the world of Sweet and Shiny:

  • If I am not perfect, nobody will like me
  • I can love only what is perfect
  • If only everybody would do what I say, this would be a perfect place
  • I am here to sacrifice myself for my partner and children
  • I have to strive to be perfect at work. I must look smart to my boss.
  • I must continually strive to better myself
  • If I don't get straight A's, my father will not love me.
  • I must look like Jennifer Lopez or no man will date me
  • My husband (wife) has never been good enough. No man (woman) is.
  • No matter what you will try you will never make it

The Worlds of Omission

The next three Worlds have much less force and are based on avoidance of either physical or spiritual aspect of life, or both. Where the first three worlds involve action--what might be called sins of commission--these three are more passive, representing sins of omission.

The Reality of the Materialist

"The only way to make sense out of change is to plunge into it, move with it, and join the dance." Alan Watts

To the person living the Reality of the Materialist, what it is all about is enjoying the good life of physical pleasures in the here and now. What you see is what you get. The material-driven person focuses on the physical aspect of the world and actively avoids everything spiritual. She has no time to waste on illusions about God or the meaning of life or what happens after you die. It is almost as if the fleeting nature of material life adds to its poignancy and sweetness. Whatever she can have now is all she has, and she wants it all. She wants the latest toys and gadgets, not to impress others, but just to enjoy. More and bigger material possessions defines how she achieves her sense of security and measures her success. But her appetite for life makes it hard for her to set limits--she gets in over her head, with too big of a mortgage, too much work, too much responsibility.

An example is the man who embraces the challenge of starting and running a small business because it is the only way he can afford to have the life he wants. He works hard and plays hard. He has a pool for the kids and a boat in the driveway, and loves good friends and good food. He doesn't want to waste time talking about his feelings or what it all means, he just wants to feel good right now and enjoy the experience of feeling good.

Beliefs of the Materialist Reality:

  • He who dies with the most toys...wins!
  • I owe, I owe, so off to work I go
  • All this "new age" stuff is a lot of mumbo jumbo
  • I cannot stop until the job is completed
  • I need the biggest house, car, boat
  • Nothing I cannot touch exists
  • I don't believe you until you show me
  • Prove it

The Reality of the Spiritualist

"Form without spirit has no vitality...spirit without form has no expression." James Ray

The Reality of the Spiritualist is not of this world. Material reality is a trap, an illusion to transcend. Spirituality is a higher dimension of light and love free from the pollution of physical life. The person driven by Spiritualist Reality puts all of her energy into achieving this higher dimension. From the perspective of some religious traditions, this seems almost saintly. But because matter is a physical manifestation of consciousness, denying the physical and depriving oneself is actually a denial of the very thing that the spiritualist aspires to.

An example is the underweight vegan seeker who rents a basement room so he can work less and meditate more. He is annoyed that he has to deal with material life, which he considers a distraction from his goal. He would be happy to give away all of his belongings, join an ashram or monastery, and pray and meditate all of the time. Because he is not caring for his physical needs his cupboards are bare, his faucets leak, and his bills pile up unpaid. He resents having to deal with money, so he is always in financial crisis.

Belief in the Spiritualist Reality:

  • I gave it all up therefore I am ready to be a saint
  • God expects me to do this
  • Physical life is just a trap and an illusion
  • To reach nirvana, I must give up everything physical
  • In order to reach enlightenment, one must spend one's days in meditation

The World of the Logician

"Where is wisdom we have lost in knowledge? Where is the knowledge we have lost in information?" - T. S. Eliot

One who inhabits the Reality of the Logician believes the world should be a stable, unchanging place that makes sense, a quiet, unruffled pond. If everything stays the same, then eventually it should be possible to understand it all. Knowledge is the goal of life, and comprehensive knowledge is the substance of security. The individual driven by this reality is affronted by change, wary of surprises, and threatened by emotions. Making a choice is nearly impossible, because choice implies change and this person deeply desires to keep everything the same. For this reason, decisions are often weighed but seldom taken. Analysis to paralysis is the rule.

An example is the professor who is a walking encyclopedia on virtually everything. As soon as you raise a subject, she will tell you everything about it. She loves to share her knowledge, yet feels unappreciated because no one wants to listen to her. Students fall asleep in her class. What she knows is all from the book--there is no spark or vitality in it because she has scrupulously avoided the life experiences that would enliven her knowledge. She resists adopting updated versions of her course textbooks as long as possible. On committees she always raises objections to new proposals and insists that proposed changes require further study before being implemented. Blocking so-called progress gives her a sense of accomplishment. Her very being exudes inertia. This passive resistance to change arouses many active responses from her colleagues, which makes her feel as if she is being picked on for no good reason.

Beliefs in the logician:

  • Having the data is everything
  • Emotion distorts knowledge, and is a sign of weakness
  • Everything is in the book--just read the book
  • Others don't recognize my contribution, because they don't know enough.
  • The response to every new idea is that it needs more study
  • Why doesn't anyone ask me for advice, I am the expert in my field?
  • Nobody listens to me in spite of having so much knowledge.
  • Why is everybody always picking on me?
  • I am never bored when I am alone because I have a very active mental life.
  • I learn from reading so I don't need to experience the mistakes myself

Life in Parallel Realities

"If you don't change your beliefs, life will be like this forever. Is that good news?" Douglas Adams

From trying to teach the idea of parallel realities in seminars, I discovered that it is a  very difficult concept to grasp. How is it that you can see something so clearly, understand it perfectly, explain it patiently and carefully to someone else, only to feel as if that person simply cannot get it? How is it that someone can see things in an entirely different light and not understand how you see it? Our bodily held beliefs serve as a sort of filter that colors what we perceive, so that two people in the same place may have very different experiences. I found that this concept was difficult to teach through explanations, and that it actually requires an experiential reference point in order to fully comprehend that those completely different realities can exist side by side in different people in the same space and time.

It is also possible for one person to switch filters, and actually move from one reality to another. This might happen once in a lifetime--perhaps a conversion experience. If one partner in a marriage changes to a different reality and the other partner does not, the marriage is unlikely to survive. Shifting into different realities may also happen more frequently. If you change realities often those around you may suspect that you have psychological problems, because you will appear to change from one person to a very different person. One day you might be sweet and cooperative, the next you might act like a tyrant who is trying to manage everything and everyone. You might wonder about your own sanity, because if you look at a decision you made two days ago your earlier decision may seem incomprehensible. Watching a movie or listening to a particular type of music may shift you into a different reality, as may a powerful speaker. Or a balanced person might be pulled into someone else's imbalanced reality just by being overly empathetic and trying to fix the problem. 

It is even possible for one person to inhabit two different realities at the same time. For example, a person might have their upper chakras balanced in love, but the lower chakras might be in the spiritualist reality that denies the physical. In such a case there will be a distinct shift in the spine at the demarcation between the two realities accompanied by back pain. Long-term cases of scoliosis or lordosis often reflect such split realities.   

The beauty of knowing that there are multiple realities is that you always have options--it is always possible to choose to move into a different reality. Earlier I used the metaphor of realities as filters that change how things look. But changing realities changes more than perception--it changes your relationship with the world. Within a different reality, the world will respond differently. For example, being in Sweet and Shiny makes a person more prone to accidents. Being in the reality of the Logician makes you prone to being attacked verbally from all sides.

Discovering the Reality of the Spiritualist held the biggest surprise for me, since being raised a Catholic had taught me that a life of self-denial was the path to the highest life had to offer. Yet the vibration of people in this reality sounded distorted, just like all the other limited-reality traps. Because it seemed paradoxical to me that spirituality could be a trap, I put extra effort into understanding this particular system. From this I came to the conclusion that the purpose of life is to transform through the process of living fully. One who withdraws from the world and from life is skipping the major purpose of being here.

Yet this does not mean that one has to live in one of these six parallel realities described above. In addition to the Six Worlds of Imbalance, I discovered three other energy patterns that were strikingly different. I called these the Three Realities of Light.

The Three Realities of Light

Not every reality world carried the discordant sound of the realities of imbalance. The three patterns described in this section are full of light and life-bringing energy. No illnesses are associated with these realities. The Six Realities of Imbalance are parallel realities in the sense that one can exist only one of them in a certain at any given time. Unlike this, the Realities of Light can exist in various combinations within an individual, in the sense that each of these three realities can work collaboratively with the others.

Creator Consciousness

The Creator Consciousness person understands the structure of life and the purpose that he and others have within it. Out of this, he knows what needs to be done. The person guided by Creator Consciousness is a natural, charismatic leader--people are drawn to his presence. He possesses confidence that he is aligned with the forces of life, that as he moves forward the world will move with him. His clarity of vision is matched by his compassion, for he is deeply concerned about the wellbeing and success of others and always ready to provide guidance. He brings creative inspiration and life to everyone around him, always full of new ideas that arise from his uncommonly insightful grasp of situations. He is a reliable force for peace and stability.

An example is the father who wakes up at 6:00 a.m. with boundless energy, filled with ideas on how to make things better, easier, smoother, and more productive for everyone in the family and at work. He is never happier than when he is working to improve things. His are not empty dreams, but realistic insights into what is needed and what is possible, for he discerns clearly both the potentials and limitations of the situations in his life. The guidance that he offers his children and colleagues comes from this deep inner knowing, and seeks to motivate them toward their higher purpose. His selfless love comes not from self-denial, but from living in a reality that is wider and deeper than his own individual life.

Beliefs of the Creator Consciousness:

  • I can create whatever is needed
  • Life has a plan, and I am on board
  • Once I make a decision, the Universe conspires to make it happen
  • Everything is beautiful in its own way
  • Everything works together for good
  • Everyone has a vital role to play
  • There is an invisible harmony that connects everything in the world

Adventurer Consciousness

Adventurer Consciousness wakes up every day ready to explore life with full trust that whatever is needed will be provided. Playful, ready to learn, hungry for new ideas and experiences, the adventurer is immersed in the present moment of discovery. There is a sense of passion and authenticity in all that she does. She gives no thought to things that happened years ago, or that might happen tomorrow, trusting that the boundless goodness of life will protect her, support her and supply her needs for the next adventure. She has faith that when things do not work out today, there is always tomorrow. There are no mistakes, only learning experiences. This, together with her trust in life, makes her fearless. Sometimes her enthusiasm for the present moment makes her reluctant to take responsibility for her actions, and sometimes she is thoughtless of the needs of others when pursuing something she wants. For the most part, though, she is full of gratitude no matter what happens.

An example is the young child who awakens every day eager to play and explore. He has no concern about the weighty patterns of history or where his meals will come from tomorrow. His play has no failure, just a series of discoveries that feed his curiosity and stimulate his desire to find out more. 

Beliefs of Adventurer Consciousness:

  • I want to experience everything
  • Good or bad, everything is an experience
  • Just go for it
  • I am safe to experience life.
  • Life is full of joyful and exciting surprises.
  • I am able to laugh at myself, because everything is part of learning
  • I am always protected
  • Whatever I need will be provided

Nurturer Consciousness

Nurturer Consciousness exudes the warmth and care that cultivates life. The person guided by this energy will listen to your ideas, feelings and emotions, accept them, process them, contemplate them and then feed them back to you together with wisdom and insight. She feels safe enough to others that she creates an atmosphere where defenses can be dropped and the truth recognized. She seems to be a source of nurturing and protection to everybody around her, instinctively knowing what is needed for others to grow and thrive. She is neither self-sacrificing nor dominating, but playfully and patiently supports others in breaking out of patterns, discovering something, or reaching their goals.

An example is the young mother who steadies her son as he takes his first steps. She is fully in rhythm with her child's experience, neither hurrying him along nor protecting him from every fall. She is always ready to help him, not by doing for him, but by supporting him in having the learning experiences that he needs. Her inner knowing tells her when to assist and when to give space. She takes joy in creating an environment that supports his growing mind and body, cultivating the life that he is.

Beliefs of Nurturer Consciousness:

  • Everybody deserves a chance, and then another one
  • My role is to create the environment to enable others in achieving their goals
  • I love to watch my children, team, employees grow
  • There is room for everybody
  • People are inherently good
  • I want to be of service

The World of Light

On rare occasions I had the opportunity to glimpse a tenth energy in certain people, something that contained all of the realities of light but also represented something more than just these three added together. It was as if by embodying all three energies together, a person might move past the level of concepts and into reality itself. At the time I did not realize it, but I later discovered that what was required was not only holding these three energies together, but also holding a balanced form of the energy of the Six Realities of Imbalance. I call this energy the All-Balancing Consciousness.

The All-Balancing Consciousness

All-Balancing Consciousness is an uplifted state of joy, peace, harmony and love. Yet it is completely different than excitement or the emotionally "high" experience encountered when the Sweet and Shiny reality is feeling good, for it is not a stimulating illusion but the full-bodied presence of life itself.

Rather than trying to describe something for which there may be no words, I will share an experience I had in Poland in 1980 when I went to see Pope John Paul II on this first visit to Warsaw. As he walked through the crowd, he passed about eight feet away from me. His presence was so big that it passed through me. I was awed by an incredibly powerful presence of love and peace. I knew this was an energy that was very real but also very rare.

Years later, I have occasionally been aware of others who were in that consciousness. I noticed the same energy emanating from the current Dalai Lama. From time to time, some current leaders such as Bill Hewlett, Steve Jobs and Bill Gates have exhibited this energy also, though not as consistently.


These ten different realities, defined by qualities of energy in the body, represent the spectrum of human consciousness. Through discovering these, I had a way to understand the next stage of my journey of discovery: that these ten realities were related to the sefirot of the Tree of Life described in mystical Jewish texts. In reflecting on these ten energies I also find interesting parallels with String Theory. String Theory describes four linear dimensions and six curved dimensions, plus the eleventh dimension of time. The comparison may be only metaphorical, but this fits well with what I have come to think of as four realities of light and six realities where imbalances are common. What became clear was that discovering these ten energy realities was just the beginning on a long road of discovery.