Languages

If you build a ship, don't drum up people to collect wood, and don't assign them tasks and work, but rather teach them to long for the endless immensity of the sea.

Antoine deSaint-Exupery

Practical Example: Personal

We often attract people and situations into our lives that provide us with opportunities to recognize and correct our negative beliefs. The body is a perfect feedback mechanism that constantly amazes us. It never fails in identifying problems and cannot be cheated. Our body will tell us where we are harboring our limiting belief through the pain or discomfort. We can all learn the skills to consciously focus on the discomfort in our bodies, and become aware of the emotions that are stored there. and the defense mechanism we develop to deal with certain situations.

Looking at our defense mechanism with the illumination of Unconditional love, we are able to identify their limitations and determine what we need to do to transform them, to align with the Universal Truth. From there, we can take the first step towards releasing the limiting beliefs based on Contextual Truth and begin healing the part of the body where the negative emotions are stored.

Below is a story from one of our clients that describes how she has changed her life by transforming limiting beliefs.

At one of the sessions, my shoulders were so heavy and hurt so much that I found it difficulty to sit up in a chair. I have suffered with shoulder pain for many years. As part of the therapy session, I discovered something that happened when I was thirteen years old. I went away to Catholic school in a town too far to travel to and from home on a daily basis. I had to stay close to school and in exchange for room and board, I took care of five children, cooked meals, and cleaned house.

From that time, I had formed a belief that I was responsible for the wellbeing of those around me and proceeded to “mother” and take care of people throughout my life. This “mothering” extended to my work colleagues as well as my personal relationships. If something needed to be taken care of, I would do it, whether or not it was my responsibility.

This caused many problems with others, who seemed to interpret my well being actions as meddling, and made them think  that I was viewing them incapable to do thing themselves, thus building resentment. Some people began to depend on me to fix things for them and abdicated their responsibilities entirely.

Upon examining this mothering even more, I uncovered the belief that my self-worth depended on helping others. I believed that if I did not help them then they would not love me. Therefore, it was very difficult for me to say no and to express my own needs within a situation. Analyzing this event helped me discover that I did not fully experience childhood and that I was almost totally out of touch with the “child” part of my personality.

Growing up on a farm, my brother and I were expected to pitch in and do farm work from a young age. In the summer it was common for me to work twelve hours per day. The common childhood activities like playing sports, swimming, and generally having fun were rare and special outings, to be enjoyed only after the chores were completed. I was encouraged to take one month to experiment with developing my inner child. For that month, I would ask the question, ”What would a child do in this situation?” and proceed to follow that inner guidance. I was able to get answers about behaving more in my own self interest and to just take part in the fun activities like a child would. I started a series of “Play Dates” with some of my friends who are especially good “Play Mates” and even took a trip to my favorite “Play Ground” (Chicago).

This exercise was quite transformational for me as, and to my amazement, the people around me started to change as well. They picked up the tasks that I had been doing for them all these years. They became partners in working together. When I gave them the space to be responsible, they stepped in and completed the tasks. More was accomplished in this month than normally. It seemed impossible, but I was not stressed and my shoulders stopped hurting. As my energy level soared, I developed an alternative belief: I am the most important person to take care of and that I need to get in touch with and express my own needs.

This new belief emphasizes the importance of caring for my inner child—that it is OK to play and not to work all of the time. Now, I feel like I am in the flow of life. Better yet, people I saw again at the end of the month agreed that I looked ten years younger. I certainly feel like a large weight has been lifted off my shoulders.